Money Drunk Money Sober: a caution about family dysfunction

For this time period, I am working through Julia Cameron and Mark Bryan’s book Money Drunk, Money Sober before I work through the Prosperous Heart. The following blog entries are in response to prompts and experiences from the book. I see this as an extension of my Artist’s Way work. Some of my entries are jarring and highly personal – any program of sobriety and self-improvement demands admitting dysfunction both personally and in family, and it also calls to admit some painful truths. While not everything I work on appears here, a number of realities do. I have a genuine body of work thanks to my work on the Artist’s Way program, and I can’t ignore the changes the continual commitment has brought about. Because of that, I also can’t ignore what going further into the harder aspects of the program – like facing money issues – has the potential to improve.

From the book, “It is appropriate here to add our caution from the previous week about families. Besides their ongoing denial, their anger can also ambush us unexpectedly in recovery. Many of us did anger our families deeply and they may not want to see us having too much fun if they are still smarting, or even smirking, over our misdeeds in the past…It is our belief that maybe you should find another recovering money drunk, someone who wants to see you happy now, not remorseful.”

Someone who wants to see you HAPPY now – not REMORSEFUL. This says a lot, and definitely speaks to my own family dynamic. Remorse means you’re actually still stuck in the old patterns, and in a round of self-loathing. Happy means you’ve made a change.