Riding the Dragon: Nasty Talk

This is part of my work in the Julia Cameron Artist’s Way series. The work this time is from the book the Artist’s Way at Work: Riding the Dragon. The responses are self-examinations and assessments based on work through a daily series of exercises. While I do keep some material offline as it can be very personal and jarring, I often opt to be fairly open about my experiences, both positive and negative.

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Nasty Talk You’re Lazy You can only do this because Mike supports you If you had kids, you wouldn’t be able to do all this (and somehow you should apologize for not wanting children.) No one really likes you; most people approach you with an agenda. Saying what you really think won’t be welcomed.
Refutation You are anything BUT lazy – go to Google tasks. See the checklists? Now pull up the version that shows ALL tasks. You are honoring your needs when you goof off a little. So what if Mike supports you? You would not be where you are, with him, if you had not supported HIM earlier in the relationship. You contributed to the situation you have now with a lot of hard work. That’s fertility guilt bullshit, so don’t buy into it. Women that opt for motherhood do so because it’s where they truly want to put their energy. You are under no obligation to have their experiences, and you have every right to seek the experiences and accomplishments you do want to achieve. First of all, half the time the agenda is just the easy way to start a conversation with you. The other half, when someone is out to use you, you have to remember: they’re already doing something unlikable themselves, so whether you are liked is irrelevant. Remember MD? The only time he seemed to actually appreciate you is when you got irritated enough to state your honest opinion. You’re not mean, you’re honest – and you work hard to understand a person’s situation before you express opinions. You can’t be responsible for the noise in someone else’s head.

On to the next phase.

Nasty Rules Don’t go to bed until you’re done! Don’t stop to eat until you’re done! No exercising/playtime until you’re done with ALL of it! I don’t care if you hate this book, you’re reading ALL of it! You have to recycle/save/deal with EVERYTHING!
Reframe Go to bed when you are TIRED. Your work is best when you rest properly. Eat when you are hungry. There’s no prize for torturing your metabolism. Workouts make you a better writer. Make them a priority; you know about the studies where people that exercise a lot get more done in less hours per week than their full time sedate counterparts. Review books are different as that’s part of the deal. However, in your own life, you no longer have required reading. You don’t have to finish anything if you don’t want to, not even book club material. This one is tough, because environmental consciousness is in fact part of my religious practice. I do want to reuse, recycle, and give life to every piece of everything that passes to my hands, and unchecked it turns into a hoarding situation.Statement:

*Trust the recyclers to do their jobs.

*Honor the constraints – if you can’t store it in your bin, it needs to go out.

*The people that are judging you aren’t doing a damn thing to help, so don’t worry about it.